11 7 / 2014

feminishblog:

rhrealitycheck:

Picture via choosechoice.

This is one of my favorite, if not most favorite pro-choice image. Love the message.
Motherhood does not make you whole. You were whole to begin with.

feminishblog:

rhrealitycheck:

Picture via choosechoice.

This is one of my favorite, if not most favorite pro-choice image. Love the message.

Motherhood does not make you whole. You were whole to begin with.

(via cockleshells)

20 5 / 2014

Anonymous said: I guess I just feel weird about it, and about their motivations in becoming a midwive or an OB- I mean, if you're pro abortion, why would you help pregnant women give birth? I get them becoming an abortionist, logically, but just... I don't understand them being a midwife or OB. And it makes me so uncomfortable I can't ask mine outright where she stands, because idk how much I can trust her with my baby's life.

bebinn:

kerbiemarie:

harley-rose25:

kerbiemarie:

misandry-mermaid:

lolatprolife:

prolife21:

I completely agree with you there, and I see what you’re saying. A pro-life OB or midwife would value your baby’s life better than a pro-abortion one.

What a crock of shit.

Midwives are medical professionals and as such they have a duty to make sure the pregnant person goes through a safe birth.

A pro choice midwife would understand that this person has CHOSE to have this child, and would endeavour to make it as safe as possible.

Such outrageous bullshit, you talk. - Leigh

My mom is a pro-choice midwife.
She’s delivered thousands of babies. She has witnessed countless times how emotionally and physically challenging/exhausting it is to be pregnant for nine months and give birth. She’s been there for mental breakdowns, panic attacks, health scares, abusive relationships, extreme poverty, medical emergencies, and even deaths. That’s why she’s pro-choice. Because it’s such an intensely difficult experience for people with wanted pregnancies. Forcing someone to go through that process when they don’t even want to is BARBARIC.

I don’t usually talk about this on Tumblr, but my doctor when I was pregnant was pro-life. When my very, very wanted pregnancy ended in miscarriage, she refused to give me the necessary procedure when I was hemorrhaging because it was “too close to an abortion” for her comfort. The procedure was a d&c, which is sometimes necessary if your body has trouble, which I did, because I have a back-tilting uterus. I ended up having emergency surgery at the hands of a more competent doctor, and multiple blood transfusions. The competent doctor was close to tears when evaluating me, and kept saying “I can’t believe she let it get this bad, a few more hours of bleeding and you could have died.” What was already a terrible time for me because I was losing a baby turned into an absolute nightmare, and I almost lost my life. So even though my pregnancy didn’t end in abortion, my doctor’s pro-life level of comfort for a procedure she deemed “close to abortion” (which, it’s not, a d&c has nothing to do with abortion), was placed above my own safety. So think again if you believe a pro-life doctor will handle your pregnancy better than a pro-choice one.

Omg kerbie, that’s literally one of the most disgusting things I’ve ever heard. Did you take any legal action against this doctor? She needs to have her medical license revoked.

We’re currently still trying to take legal action. I’ve had talks with lawyers, and unfortunately I live in a very Republican state so technically what she did wasn’t illegal. That’s what is so terrifying about this. Everyone assumes if a doctor nearly kills a patient, you should be able to sue for malpractice or incompetence. But you can’t, because now doctors are under the protection of these pro-life laws popping up.

Her pro-life stance was also the cause of my miscarriage, but I can’t do anything about that either. I had a medical disorder which she tested for and then lied about the results, telling me my “pregnancy must have made it go away.” Because pregnancy is magical? I stupidly believed her because I thought, she’s a doctor, she must know better than I do. Having this disorder while pregnant can cause minor birth defects. However, untreated completely, can also cause miscarriage. In my state, it is completely legal for a doctor to lie or withhold information if it might cause the mother to seek out an abortion. Basically, she thought if I knew I had this disorder, I might get an abortion. So she lied.

I feel like I could write an entire book about everything this doctor did, which I didn’t second guess because I was naive and thought a doctor would do her job. But this is why the pro-life movement is harmful. I wanted my baby. My husband and I deliberately tried for one, upgraded to a 2 bedroom apartment, went to ultrasound appointments all excited and holding hands. All I have left are stacks of medical bills and a second bedroom, empty except for boxes of baby things, with a door that’s always shut. I don’t even know how to put into words what I went through, and every part of it was directly tied to my doctor’s political views. This could have happened to anyone. Pro-life, pro-choice. If you’re pregnant, your life is in danger, thanks to the environment of ignorance and lies their pro-“life” movement has cultivated.

For those who don’t know, doctors can lie to their pregnant patients in states with “wrongful birth laws.” Basically, they get to prioritize their ideology over doing their jobs and caring for the health of their patients.

So pro-life.

19 5 / 2014

bebinn:

After signing a bill to outlaw the shackling of women in labor, Massachusetts Governor Deval Patrick told the packed room, “It blows my mind that I have to sign a law for that.”

The bill adds more protections for pregnant incarcerated women, like basic health care and safety needs.

Wow.

18 5 / 2014

Anonymous said: I guess I just feel weird about it, and about their motivations in becoming a midwive or an OB- I mean, if you're pro abortion, why would you help pregnant women give birth? I get them becoming an abortionist, logically, but just... I don't understand them being a midwife or OB. And it makes me so uncomfortable I can't ask mine outright where she stands, because idk how much I can trust her with my baby's life.

bebinn:

kerbiemarie:

misandry-mermaid:

lolatprolife:

prolife21:

I completely agree with you there, and I see what you’re saying. A pro-life OB or midwife would value your baby’s life better than a pro-abortion one.

What a crock of shit.

Midwives are medical professionals and as such they have a duty to make sure the pregnant person goes through a safe birth.

A pro choice midwife would understand that this person has CHOSE to have this child, and would endeavour to make it as safe as possible.

Such outrageous bullshit, you talk. - Leigh

My mom is a pro-choice midwife.
She’s delivered thousands of babies. She has witnessed countless times how emotionally and physically challenging/exhausting it is to be pregnant for nine months and give birth. She’s been there for mental breakdowns, panic attacks, health scares, abusive relationships, extreme poverty, medical emergencies, and even deaths. That’s why she’s pro-choice. Because it’s such an intensely difficult experience for people with wanted pregnancies. Forcing someone to go through that process when they don’t even want to is BARBARIC.

I don’t usually talk about this on Tumblr, but my doctor when I was pregnant was pro-life. When my very, very wanted pregnancy ended in miscarriage, she refused to give me the necessary procedure when I was hemorrhaging because it was “too close to an abortion” for her comfort. The procedure was a d&c, which is sometimes necessary if your body has trouble, which I did, because I have a back-tilting uterus. I ended up having emergency surgery at the hands of a more competent doctor, and multiple blood transfusions. The competent doctor was close to tears when evaluating me, and kept saying “I can’t believe she let it get this bad, a few more hours of bleeding and you could have died.” What was already a terrible time for me because I was losing a baby turned into an absolute nightmare, and I almost lost my life. So even though my pregnancy didn’t end in abortion, my doctor’s pro-life level of comfort for a procedure she deemed “close to abortion” (which, it’s not, a d&c has nothing to do with abortion), was placed above my own safety. So think again if you believe a pro-life doctor will handle your pregnancy better than a pro-choice one.

I’m SO glad you’re okay, wow.

And you’re not the only person this has happened to. A woman in Washington had her second pregnancy put in danger by her Catholic hospital’s mismanagement of her first miscarriage because they “valued” her fetus’ life over her own. Or "Janet," who almost died because her fetus’ heart was still beating while she was bleeding to death. And we all heard about the late Savita Halappanavar in Ireland, where abortion is illegal.

I don’t know if these people think pro-choice midwives are secretly performing abortions on their patients or what, but there are documented cases of what happens when “pro-life” ideology clashes with medical reality, so…

12 5 / 2014

03 5 / 2014

the-treble:

pr1nceshawn:

Guess What…? - Couples find fun ways to announce to their friends and family that they are expecting.

hahaha that last one

(via buttermilk-thegoat)

15 4 / 2014

"Well, let me just put a stop to this shit right now. You can give me gold-plated day care and an awesome public school right on the street corner and start paying me 15% more at work, and I still do not want a baby. I don’t particularly like babies. They are loud and smelly and, above all other things, demanding. No matter how much free day care you throw at women, babies are still time-sucking monsters with their constant neediness. No matter how flexible you make my work schedule, my entire life would be overturned by a baby. I like my life how it is, with my ability to do what I want when I want without having to arrange for a babysitter. I like being able to watch True Detective right now and not wait until baby is in bed. I like sex in any room of the house I please. I don’t want a baby. I’ve heard your pro-baby arguments. Glad those work for you, but they are unconvincing to me. Nothing will make me want a baby.

And don’t float “adoption” as an answer. Adoption? Fuck you, seriously. I am not turning my body over for nine months of gaining weight and puking and being tired and suffering and not being able to sleep on my side and going to the hospital for a bout of misery and pain so that some couple I don’t know and probably don’t even like can have a baby. I don’t owe that couple a free couch to sleep on while they come to my city to check out the local orphans, so I sure as shit don’t own them my body. I like drinking alcohol and eating soft cheese. I like not having a giant growth protruding out of my stomach. I hate hospitals and like not having stretch marks. We don’t even force men to donate sperm—a largely pleasurable activity with no physical cost—so forcing women to donate babies is reprehensible."

The Real Debate Isn’t About “Life” But About What We Expect Of Women | The Raw Story (via brutereason)

"So, reading those three paragraphs above? I bet at some point you recoiled a bit, even if you don’t want to have recoiled a bit.  Don’t I sound selfishHedonistic? Isn’t there something very unfeminine about my bluntness here? Hell, I’m performing against gender norms so hard that even I recoil a little.

This is actually what I think, and I feel zero guilt about it, but I know that saying so out loud will cause people to want to hit me with the Bad Woman ruler, and that causes a little dread. Why do we feel this way?

What kind of training and socialization did we receive that made us think there’s something terribly wrong about a woman who is hurting no one and is actually pretty nice but wants what she wants in her private life and doesn’t apologize about it? Is there a reason that we should bully women into pretending that they’re more interested in being selfless and eternally nurturing than they actually are, even at great cost to themselves?”

(via voicesforchoices)

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13 4 / 2014

crunchierkatie:

thisfeliciaday:

This is horrifying hahaha. (Via @amberbenson)

Damn nature, you scary.

27 3 / 2014

misandry-mermaid:

In the early 90s in Washington DC, Angela Carder became critically sick with cancer.  She was also twenty-five weeks pregnant.  The hospital sought a court order forcing 25-year-old Carder to undergo a C-section, in the hope the fetus could be saved; despite medical testimony that the surgery could kill her, the court privileged the fetus’ rights over Carder’s own life.  Carder’s fetus, too underdeveloped to be viable, died within two hours.  Carder died within two-days - the C-section was cited as a contributing factor in her death.

[source: http://advocatesforpregnantwomen.org]

(via thebicker)

13 3 / 2014

penisvvrinkle:

concernedresidentofbakerstreet:

risaellen:

timdrakeisgay:

the-savage-avenger:

kneel-on-nails:

forever-kitten:

Damn son our uterus stretches like 5x the size and then contracts and pushes a 7 pound baby out of a small tube into life if you think that isn’t metal as fuck get out of my face

YOUR ORGANS THOUGH IM SO SORRY LADIES

How the hell do woman survive this?

Seriously it surprises me how many people don’t know a couple things about pregnancy and babies:
women would not survive 10 months of pregnancy they would die
A baby is nowhere near as developed as it should be to be out in the world at 9 months, but the human body has not evolved to push anything past the size of the head out, everything else the baby is can stretch and squash but the head
the vagina can’t handle anything bigger than the head at 9 months of development so we have to give birth. 
But babies actually need longer than that, really, it’s why they’re such a mess when they’re born and why they’re completely dependent on care, can’t walk, can’t do anything.  Note most other animals can when they are born.  Babies are born too early, it’s kind of a huge and secret flaw in human evolution.  I found it really interesting, so thought I’d share.





why is this transparent

penisvvrinkle:

concernedresidentofbakerstreet:

risaellen:

timdrakeisgay:

the-savage-avenger:

kneel-on-nails:

forever-kitten:

Damn son our uterus stretches like 5x the size and then contracts and pushes a 7 pound baby out of a small tube into life if you think that isn’t metal as fuck get out of my face

YOUR ORGANS THOUGH IM SO SORRY LADIES

How the hell do woman survive this?

Seriously it surprises me how many people don’t know a couple things about pregnancy and babies:

women would not survive 10 months of pregnancy they would die

A baby is nowhere near as developed as it should be to be out in the world at 9 months, but the human body has not evolved to push anything past the size of the head out, everything else the baby is can stretch and squash but the head

the vagina can’t handle anything bigger than the head at 9 months of development so we have to give birth. 

But babies actually need longer than that, really, it’s why they’re such a mess when they’re born and why they’re completely dependent on care, can’t walk, can’t do anything.  Note most other animals can when they are born.  Babies are born too early, it’s kind of a huge and secret flaw in human evolution.  I found it really interesting, so thought I’d share.

image

why is this transparent

(Source: choosechoice, via buttermilk-thegoat)