15 8 / 2014
on the “its acceptable for women to wear men’s clothes but not men to wear women’s clothes” thing- its always forgotten that women and girls have been fighting in small but organised ways to wear “masculine” (mostly read practical) clothing from at least the 1870s. I know women in their 80s and girls in their tweens who at some time in their life have organised in order to wear the clothes they want - from making petitions to persuade their school to let them wear shorts not gym skirts, to trade union organising at work to make sure overalls and workboots are available in women’s sizes, to being the first women in the office to wear trousers, to just turning up at social events in the clothes they want to wear - and getting solidarity from other women doing the same thing - and of course not forgetting the women who risked violence, losing their job or families, or being arresting for cross-dressing laws because of what they wore.
There just hasn’t been such a widespread and longstanding organised push from men to wear skirts or other clothes coded feminine in everyday life. That isn’t women’s fault.
14 10 / 2013
"People want to believe gender is something that’s essential, and people repeat these essentialist ideas all the time. “Oh, women do that” and “Oh, men do that” and the reality is that all women don’t anything. We as individuals do what we do, you know, and sometimes that’s informed by gender and sometimes it’s just who we are. And I think all that just makes people really, really uncomfortable because they don’t want to think about who they are."
13 10 / 2013
trans* boys in gryffindor being sent to the girl’s dormitory and then being delighted when the stairs won’t let them up
trans* girls in gryffindor being told they can’t go in the girl’s dormitory (and maybe shown what happens by some cis boy) and then trying it and finding that the stairs DO let them up
Gender fluid gryffindor students falling down as the steps to the girl’s dormitory unpredictably turn into a slide.
you’re a good egg
26 8 / 2013
"Gender isn’t simply a biological trait; it’s a societal one. The female experience is different from that of the male, and if, as a male writer, you cannot accept that basic premise, then you will never, ever, be able to write women well. A man walking alone through Midtown Manhattan at three in the morning may have concerns for his safety, but I promise you, it’s a very different experience for a woman taking the same walk, and it’s different again for a man wearing a dress. Think about it. That’s a societal factor, and it’s a gendered one, and this is not and can not be subject to debate. If you’re looking to argue that sexism is a thing of the past, that the world is gender-blind, you’re not only wrong, you’re lying to yourself."
26 3 / 2013
every time I use “they” to refer to a single gender-unknown person on Tumblr, another piece of my grammar-filled heart shatters, and the pieces scatter at the bottom of hell
“They” has been a singular pronoun for hundreds of years, you melodramatic dipshit.
08 2 / 2013
"Those of us with children know better. We know little girls love their dolls and boys just want to kick that ball. This doesn’t mean men can’t take care of babies or women can’t play sports. It just means each gender has its own energy that flows in a specific direction. For God’s sake, let it flow."
I know that gender socialization begins while our potential babies are still in the womb. I know that most boys have footballs and trucks thrust into their hands before they know the difference between a tractor and a pram and are shamed and embarrassed if ever they dare to take a shine to dolls, dresses, or anything pink. I know that girls are terrorized into thinking that the only people allowed to run around and shout—take up space and be heard—are boys, and that they should sit down, be quiet, and do their best to make everyone else around them feel comfortable, while ignoring their own personal feelings or aspirations or desires. I know that people who dare to transgress “traditional” gender lines are hated, insulted, denied job opportunities and respect, and are more likely to be subjected to violence and to die because they failed to fit into the mold someone else told them they should fit into.
If gender were that easy or straightforward, if all we had to do was “let it flow,” do you think it would be necessary to write an article like this? Isn’t it possible that the reason some people resist your definitions of womanhood and manhood are because those definitions genuinely don’t fit them? I know they don’t fit me.
This Fox News article is such a piece of shit that I cannot even.